if your feminism does not actively advocate for and with women of color, your feminism is shit
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Feminist Frequency - Tropes vs. Women: #1 The Manic Pixie Dream Girl
I have literally felt a person try to place me into this trope in their life.
Every. God. Damn. Day. And to a certain extent I am a MPDG, except, of course, that I’m a real, complete person. Weird.
(via marxist-feminism)
MOUSTACHE!
I saw him at the bar where he works on a night out. We hugged and laughed and are going to be friends. He’ll just never touch my heart again.
It is funny (It is not funny. It is sad.) how everyone wants to see naked pictures of women, but nobody wants there to be real, living, breathing, feeling, thinking human beings behind those photos. Pictures are just supposed to spring out of a void, but oh my god, should there be an actual identity behind that picture of a naked woman? GASP. HORROR. HOW COULD SHE.
That’s what bothers me as well.But then, I can’t simply ignore the fact I’m also one of those guys who consumes pornography—either implicitly or explicitly.
Wish I’d be more wise.
There is a huuuuge difference between having attraction and sexual fantasies about someone and actually objectifying them.
Sexual attraction/fantasy: Feeling attraction towards someone and thinking sexy thoughts about them for your own arousal and private gratification. TOTALLY FINE!
Objectification: Dehumanizing a person because you find them attractive, seeing them as purely a sex object there to gratify you and feeling entitled to them without respect for their own wants and needs. NOT COOL!
So yeah, watch porn and feel aroused by sexy people, that is human and nothing to feel ashamed of.
Ask yourself: When you see a sexy person (in real life or in porn), do you feel entitled to have actual access to their body? If you were to speak with them, would you act respectful? If they were to reject your hypothetical advances, will you behave graciously or like a jerk? I hope it’s obvious which behavior is objectifying.
It all comes down to this: Remember that the people you find attractive are whole human beings. Appreciate your attraction and the masturbation material they provide, but behave respectfully to them in real life (including talking about them online).
Enjoy your porn! And then when you’re done, take a moment to be thankful those performers are people who made porn for you to enjoy.
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A little ink wash sketch for International Men Can Wear Dresses Day!
Anonymous asked: As a member of the opposite sex, after checking out some you most recent post I feel compelled to apologize to you for the men that mistreated you in your life. I think the dogma of male society brainwashes us to act like pigs. Refer to Bentham's hierarchy of pleasure. Anyways I'm Sorry.
Well, thank you. That’s very sweet of you. I know I mainly focus on the negative guys in my life, or weird sexual stories, but I really do love men and have been blessed with lots of really great people in my life, both male and female. I’ve also been blessed with keeping my sense of humor, even when I’m deliriously pissed. So this is good. But seriously, thanks so much for the apology. It means a lot.
When you see someone hitting on your BF/GF
When I feel sexy I feel like this.
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Anonymous asked: im someone you know. this tumblr really turns me on. I want you to know I jerked off to the pictures, especially the one of you. i would never say this in person! but like i said. it turns me on. :)
Wow, um…thanks. I’m not sure it’s up here for masturbation, but I’m not sure what it’s up here for. Maybe just an exploration of self? That sounds a little bit self-centered though. I think maybe I just needed somewhere to put all the things that distract me on a daily basis into one place.
If you don’t mind, I think I’m going to imagine you as a lady. It freaks me out less…
I’m having problems with the boy and this pretty much sums it up. Ugh, I refuse to beg.